Top 10 Tickets to Stardom
Are you ready to have that big break? See your name in lights? Or maybe simply be seen in your milieu as the best and the brightest? Follow these proven instructions and become recognized as the star that you are!

1. Be fully yourself…
…no matter how ‘good’ or ‘bad’ you think you may be. Relish the day when the National Enquirer makes that pronouncement, and you are laughing on the beach in Tahiti. (You are neither good are bad. You just are. Some will love you, some won’t. It doesn’t matter. And who cares what others really think, anyway? If you are living in your truth, your life is perfect!)

2. Get seen, get heard…
…as many places as possible, as frequently as you can. When somebody realizes that special quality they are looking for, we want your face right in front of them! (You have a unique gift. If you keep it a secret, you’ll never be “discovered.” Let people know who you are.)

3. Enjoy persistence…
…because it’s a given. How attractive might you be if you were to joyfully go for it over and over again?! (Persistence can feel boring to you. Your message will be heard, though, and you will be seen. Usually, what you perceive as repetitious and boring is still new to other people and they hear you differently than you hear yourself. Keep at it. You will be heard and seen at exactly the right times by exactly the right people.)

4. Develop a thick — yet removable — skin…
…because your public will adore you and abhor you based on the quality of their lives, not yours. Keep your creative heart accessible while making mental boundaries about what you will not let effect you. (What other people think and say about you is none of your business. Stay true to yourself. It is the only thing that matters.)

5. Emulate the greatest (to a point)…
…meaning, imitate the strategies your heroes have utilized, while keeping your identity firmly rooted in Number One! (If someone else has done it, so can you. Find the model, learn their strategies then implement them in your own life.)

6. Entertain yourself…
…and keep finding more new ways to do so. Hey, if you don’t find yourself interesting, who else will? (Life is full of wonderful and exciting adventure. Explore. Experiment. LIVE!)

7. Build a community…
…of your raving fans. How to do this? Easy, add a lot of value to others in whatever way comes naturally to you. (Raving fans sing your praises without you having to do anything more than being yourself. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Smile more. Praise people. Acknowledge others a lot! Give of yourself, your time, your energy and your love. People are hungry for you and they will remember. Then they’ll talk about you. It is just an extension of who you are.)

8. Let rejection fuel you…
…because if it doesn’t fuel you, it will drain you. Ask yourself after every rejection how you will do it even better next time, and use the disappointment to project you toward that moment. (Rejection is seldom about you. It is usually a reflection of the other person’s so let it stay there. Learn from it all just don’t take it on as yours.)

9. Let acclaim humble you…
…remember what we said about the public? Acclaim is a certain sign that the best of people are before you. And you have the perspective to see that good taste is a sign of their own magnificence. (The public is fickle, though, and you will ride the waves of acclaim and obscurity. Be a surfer — hang ten and hang tough. Acclaim doesn’t change who you are or what you offer. It is one of your moments of fame.)

10. Give the people what they want...
…so ask a lot of questions up front to find out what that is. Then deliver it in your unique style to the delighted masses… (In delivering, don’t compromise yourself. Give what is you, not a composite of you according to what you think they want to see. You will never be able to be all to everyone. Be who you are — it is enough.)

Passion is not out there somewhere hiding waiting to be found. Instead it comes from inside. Developing the ability to recognize and feel passion is necessary in order to experience. It’s power to transform and improve our lives. That’s half of it.

IT IS IMPORTANT THAT THERE IS no separation out in the world WITH WHAT YOU DO AND WHO YOUR ARE.

If you’re living with a lukewarm heart, put vitality back into your living with a renewed commitment to learning, growing, pursuing your dreams, and energizing your talents to light your own fire!

How are you feeding the internal flame that burns away exhaustion, negativity, criticism, doubt and a lethargic emotional spirit?

PASSION is intense emotional excitement. It’s a feeling that comes to those who are intense. It’s the fire in the heart, the fire in the belly, the engagement with something or someone, or life itself.

Passion does not only love the outcome it absolutely loves the process. PASSION IS THE EXPRESSION OF THE SOUL.

It can enable you to celebrate life more fully and joyously. It can lead you to express your highest good and deepest loves.

Even when you are only brightening the little corner of the world that is YOU. You are shining in a way that encourages other people to shine too.

Here are 6 Passion Assassins to be aware of:

1. Lack of self-care. Pursue a Passionate Path of Self-Care. Head to toe, nurture and nourish yourself
2. Toxic People or Situations. Get rid of the human vampires. Avoid contact with people who are energy drains. Uncluttered.
3. Feeling function out of whack/balance. Learn to ask for what you want. Get in touch with that inner playmate. Get help and support.
4. Time pressures. Learn to structure and harness time and energy. Schedule time for the things and special people in your life.
5. Dulling your senses. Reach out for help. Don’t suffer in silence. Remember all things in moderation.
6. Saying Yes when you mean No. –No is the first word you learned when you were two. Use it!
Instead of looking for the love of your life, create a life that you love. The Dating Diva

Above are lyrics from a song. I liked it because it made me think, life is like a dance which I love to do.

Life is like a dance, sometimes we know the steps and sometimes we make them up. Sometimes we follow the music and sometimes we make up our own tune. Sometimes we get our toes stepped on and sometimes we step on others toes. Sometimes we slow dance and sometimes we fast dance. There are even times when we sit out for a dance or two. The good thing about life, and dancing, is we can always step back in when we are ready, we can dance any dance we choose and it doesn’t matter if we know the steps or not, we can make them up as we go.

How would you describe your life dance? Remember if you are not doing the dance you want to, you can change it. Perhaps it is time to try a few new steps.

Sometimes you dance with a partner, and sometimes you dance alone.

Dancing is the loftiest, the most moving, the most beautiful of the arts, because it is no mere translation or abstraction from life; it is life itself. Havelock Ellis

We look at the dance to impart the sensation of living in an affirmation of life, to energize the spectator into keener awareness of the vigor, the mystery, the humor, the variety, and the wonder of life. Martha Graham

There are times when change will mean that what worked in the past for us no longer works. This includes relationships. Sometimes people change out of the old and into new type of relationships. It doesn’t mean that anyone did anything wrong, it simply means that the people in the relationship have grown in different directions. This can be very painful and needs to be handled with love and understanding.

Not everyone will support us in our changing. There are those who are invested in us staying the same. Be aware of this and know that you may not always get the support that you are looking for. Also be willing to give the same understanding and kindness to the people in your life that are struggling with your change as you would like to receive from them.

Be willing to let those that are important to you know that you are changing and how that will affect not only you but also your relationship with them. Let them know how much they mean to you. People deal better with change when they know how it will affect them.

Change is what happens when we are living. We will not be the same person tomorrow that we are today. Change can take some getting used to and needs to be treated with love and understanding.

Know that you are not the only one experiencing the changes that you are making. The people in your life are being affected also. Be willing to give them the time and space they need to integrate your changes into their perception of who you are. Know they may never totally understand or accept the changes that you make. They have that right.

“Things do not change, we do.” Thoreau

People change and forget to tell each other. Lillian Hellman

I do remember when I dreaded getting older. I thought turning 50 was the worst thing that could ever happen to me. It wasn’t. What I learned is that growing older beats the alternative, and the alternative, dying, is going to come sooner than later; so why waste it worrying about something we can’t prevent. Why not enjoy each year, each day, each moment to the fullest.

If you have not read the book, Tuesdays with Morrie, by Mitch Albom, please do. It is one of those books that changed my life. One of the most profound passages in the book is on page 120, when Morrie and Mitch are having a conversation about the fear of aging. Morrie says to Mitch:

“Mitch, it is impossible for the old not to envy the young. But the issue is to accept who you are and revel in that. This is your time to be in your thirties. I had my time to be in my thirties, and now is my time to be seventy-eight. You have to find what is good, true, and beautiful in your life as it is now. Looking back makes you competitive. And, age is not a competitive issue. The truth is, part of me is every age. I’m a three year old, I’m a five year old, I’m a thirty seven year old, and I’m a fifty year old. I’ve been through all of them, and I know what it’s like. I delight in being a child when it’s appropriate to be a child. I delight in being a wise old man when it’s appropriate to be a wise old man. Think of all I can be! I am every age, up to my own. Do you understand?”

The next time someone tells you to act your age, ask him or her, “Which one?” You have been all of them up to the age you are. And please, never act any older than you are. You will be there soon enough. Simply enjoy where you are and how old you are. Doesn’t getting older beat the alternative?

In three words, I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life. It goes on. Robert Frost

I promise to keep on living as though I expected to live forever. Nobody grows old by merely living a number of years. People grow old only by deserting their ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up interest wrinkles the soul. Douglas MacArthur

Don’t go through life grow through life. Eric Butterworth

The great use of life is to spend it on something that will outlast it. William James

Not to change means we don’t grow, develop, or mature; we simply remain stagnant. One of the saddest things I ever heard was said by a young woman I had in a training class; she said, “I am never going to change. I am always going to be the way I am right now.” Thankfully, she was young enough not to realize how absurd her statement was. How many of us say that to ourselves without even realizing it? We dig our heels in and resist change at all cost because we want to stay the same. It seems safe and secure to stay the same and to never get outside of our comfort zone.

Safe is not always the best way to live our lives. There are times when we need to get out of our protective shells and explore and discover – not just what is in the world but what is within us.

It saddens me when someone says to me, “Well you used to like this or that or you used to do this or that.” It means that they are still viewing me in the past and that they are still living in the past. Just because we liked something yesterday does not have to mean we like it today. Allow yourself to grow, change, develop new interests and hobbies, and give others that freedom.

And don’t believe it when people say they can’t change, that this is the way they are. Not true. Changing and staying the same are choices.

Let Dee help you realize your life goals. Call her at 972-248-9084 or email her at dee@deannafrazier.com for your customized schedule. 

In this playful and fun lunch presentation participants will learn:

• How to be irresistibly attractive
• How to handle rejection personally and professionally
• How to compliment a man and how to compliment a woman
• The #1 quality that makes you an attraction magnet

• What are my self sabotaging beliefs?
• How do I identify my true values?
• How can I accept responsibility for what happens in my life?
• How can I attract the perfect client to increase my business?
• What are the Top 10 tickets to stardom?

Choosing to change the way we view or react to circumstances . . . will very often change the outcome of those circumstances. Dee will show you how to:

• Develop a healthy perspective on change
• Improve your beliefs about self worth
• Simplify your life to restore balance